Take 5 Series - "What My Dog Training Reminded Me About Leadership"

by Michael Hyatt

Recently, my wife bought me a Labradoodle puppy. I had wanted one ever since my daughter got hers. My grandson named him “Charlie Brown,” since his fur was a beautiful chocolate brown color.
Though he was born in January, we didn’t get to meet Charlie until last week. He spent the first eleven weeks at the breeder with his mother and siblings. Then he went straight to a trainer for “Companion Training.” (Yes, we believe in outsourcing!)

Last Monday, after what seemed like forever, we drove five hours to Indianapolis to pick him up. He was everything I had hoped he would be—cute, calm, and compliant.

The trainer spent three hours with us, going over the training. We watched with delight as Charlie responded obediently to nineteen different commands. Then the trainer let us work with him, as she coached and corrected us.

The Foundation of Success—and FailureThough he was house-broken, I had to ask her, “What happens if he has an accident and eliminates indoors. How should we respond?” (This is the part I always dread about getting a puppy.)

“No problem,” she assured me. “Just take a newspaper and roll it up real tight—like it’s a stick. Now hit yourself on the forehead and say, “Bad owner!”

We laughed out loud. She went on to explain. “If he has an accident, it’s your fault. Either you got distracted or ignored the signals.” She let that sink in and continued, “Charlie’s trained. Now we just have to train you.”

I had to smile. She was giving me a dose of my own medicine. When I teach on leadership, I always begin with self-leadership. To get better results, you have to become a better leader.
In any situation, we can practice self-leadership by taking these actions.
Action #1: Take responsibility for the results.This is a challenge for many leaders. It’s much easier to offer an excuse or blame someone else or something else.

 * “It’s the economy. Things are just slow right now.”
 * “It’s my sales manager’s fault. She didn’t get that order from Wal-Mart.”
 * We missed the deadline, because the vendor didn’t come through.”

The problem is that as long as you are making excuses you will not grow as a leader. You will also not earn the respect of others, whether it’s your boss, your peers, or your subordinates.
Instead, you have look in the mirror and say, “I own this. I don’t like it. I wish it were different, but it is what it is. I take full responsibility for this outcome.”

Action #2: Ask yourself a hard question.One of the greatest leadership lessons I ever learned was from my executive coach, Ilene from Gap International. After missing our revenue plan one August, she asked, “Why do you think you fell short of your budget?”

I stammered around, then offered a parade of excuses (actually, the very ones I cited earlier). Except, I didn’t think of them as excuses. Instead, I saw them as the reasons we had missed our target.
She then assured me she understood. “I get that all those things were factors.” Then she hit me with this zinger: “What was it about your leadership that led to this outcome?”

I did not like that question at all. In fact, I was offended by it. But she persisted.

“Look, if it’s someone else’s fault, then you are just a victim. But if you accept responsibility, you can change your behavior. And if you can change your behavior, you change the outcome next time around.”

This question has revolutionized the way I lead. I feel it is a major reason I get the results I get. But it’s not enough to ask the question. You also have to …

Action #3: Change your behavior.This is the hard part. Leaders talk a lot about the challenges of organizational change. Most of the focus is on changing other people’s behavior.
Granted, changing other people’s behavior is tough. But it’s a whole lot easier if, as leaders, we are willing to change our own behavior.

For example,

 * Leaders complain about their teammates being late to meetings but usually arrive late themselves—unless they have called the meeting.
 * Leaders insist on more analysis before green-lighting a subordinate’s project, but are content to follow their intuition when it’s their own.
 * Leaders challenge their team to explore the use of social media in their organization’s marketing efforts, but refuse to engage themselves.

The Russian saint, Seraphim of Sarov, once said, “Save yourself, and thousands around you will be saved.” This reflects deep insight into the essence of leadership and the key to organizational change.
Lead By Example

By taking these three actions, you are in a much better position to lead by example. It doesn’t mean you can’t hold others accountable. You can. But you must start with yourself and then teach others to do the same.

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Take 5 Series - "A New Definition of Success"

I went to a funeral recently and as I looked at the deceased in the coffin, I thought to myself: "Now this was a successful man." I did not base what I thought on his economic status, for in reality he made a modest living for his family. But as I waited for over an hour in the line to greet his grieving wife and family, I thought of the John Maxwell article I had recently read that I will share with you below.

A New Definition of Successby: John C. Maxwell
In 1986, when I was 39 years old, I began to notice a terrible trend among my colleagues, college buddies and friends: divorce. This was happening in a variety of marriages – from the shaky to the apparently strong. Margaret and I didn't think our relationship was in any kind of danger, but then again, we knew that many of our friends had thought their relationships were indestructible too. At the same time, my career was really taking off. And while I was enjoying the new challenges, I knew that I didn't want to lose my family in the process. That prompted me to make one of my key life decisions: rewriting my definition of success. Instead of acclaim or advancement or achievement, I decided that for me,

Success means having those closest to me love and respect me the most.

This made success for me possible only if I included my wife and children in the journey. From that moment on, my success depended on putting my family first. If you want to truly succeed in this life, you need to ask yourself a question: Is your pursuit of success drawing you closer to - or farther from – the most important people in your life? If you want to redefine success the way I did, here are some ways to put your decision into practice:

Read the full article at this link.

Take 5 Series - "How Leaders Gain Respect"

Take a look at the process a leader goes through based on the word R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

R - Respect yourself and those you work with.

E - Exceed the expectations of others

S - Stand firm in your convictions

P - Possess uncommon security and maturity

E - Experience personal success

C - Contribute to the success of others

T - Think ahead of others

by John Maxwell, From the 21 Most Powerful Minutes in a Leader's Day